These beautiful human beings have nurtured us since conception, raised us, fed us, provided shelter and supplied us with unconditional love and affection. Some people call this special day unnecessary and a Hallmark hoax; but those people haven’t experienced a special woman in their life that deserves one day in the year to be sincerely acknowledged for being an exceptional mum – this special day is Mother’s Day.
Anna Jarvis in 1912 trademarked the phrase, ‘Mother’s Day’. She also made Mother’s Day a global day to stop and thank mothers around the world. ‘she specifically noted that mothers should be a singular possessive, for each family should honour their mother, not a plural possessive commemorating all mothers around the world’. Wikipedia
Mother’s around the world are flourished in gratitude and love; this is displayed differently around the world, yet the one similarity is that Mother’s Day falls on the second Sunday of May for everyone.
People in India write cards to their mothers and give them the cards on Mother’s Day. They also express their gratitude through preparing a meal for their mother, which allows the mother to have a day off in the kitchen.
People in South Africa use flowers as a way to thank their mothers on Mother’s Day. The traditional flowers that are used are carnations. People in South Africa wear pink or red carnations to recognise their mothers that are still alive, while people wear white carnations to pay tribute to those that are no longer living. In South Africa, grandmothers are also gratified, not just mothers.
At ASPAR and Aurora Spa we believe it is essential to show gratitude to the special women in your life with a gift that rises above expectations and expresses love and acknowledgment.
Our spa inspired Me Moments are a chance to take time just for you, they are a moment for you to pause, refocus and relax your mind. In this Me Moment our founder, Lyndall Mitchell shows you how to refresh and renew your skin with our ASPAR Exfoliating Body Mitt, Grapefruit & Seaweed Revitalising Body Cleanser and finish with our Ultra Rich Body Cream or Lavender & Patchouli Body Oil. This Me Moment helps you to increase circulation through the body, smooth skin and infuse calm into your day. This is your time to relax and unwind.
Our spa inspired Me Moments are a chance to take time just for you, they are a moment for you to pause, refocus and relax your mind.. In this Me Moment our founder, Lyndall Mitchell shares a 1 minute meditation that you can do any time you feel that you need to relax and reset. Infuse some calm into your day. This is your time to relax and unwind.
So often when coaching, I hear clients that are in total overwhelm and feeling unmotivated. They are unclear, sometimes to the point where that creates severe anxiety. For some, work has lost its purpose and meaning and it feels like the world is against them. Others feel like they spend more time looking after other people needs, wants and desires than their own.
If parts of these responses resonate with you, it might be a great opportunity to have a look at your boundaries. So often our boundaries are non-existent or not consistent with our values and when we don’t set boundaries and maintain them we can be guaranteed someone else will – whether that be a work colleague, partner or family.
Life with boundaries doesn’t mean a rigid inflexible life; instead it creates and cultivates a purposeful life with great meaning and happiness. It puts the P back in purpose and allows you to look at your life with you in the driver’s seat.
Quite often the people that have trouble with boundaries are those that are deemed to be great givers. A great giver in a working environment can either go to the top or the bottom of the ladder. One of the biggest difference between those that go to the top is their ability for them to put boundaries in place.
So many great leaders in business have been great givers and it is a sustainable and rewarding place of contribution when you have great boundaries. If you are interested to know if you are a Giver, Taker or Matcher there is a free online test by Adam Grant (you can also read more about what a Matcher and Taker is). Visit www.giveandtake.com and assess your style.
Getting clear on your boundaries is a highly valuable investment of your time. Great rewards, clarity and purpose can be discovered and integrated into your life when you create, maintain and sustain your boundaries.
To create better boundaries in your life you can contact our Founder and Executive Wellbeing Coach, Lyndall Mitchell at firstname.lastname@example.org
When I was doing my morning practice of yoga and meditation recently, it dawned on me that I spend so much time during the day with the next task on my mind, my mental checklist that keeps rolling throughout the day. This is efficient and effective for our workday, however how much time do we spend without the “next thing” on our list. When do we take that time to surrender to the moment, to surrender in a way where you detach from any lists, shouldn’t, could’s, or to-do lists? From my experience with clients and for myself, we don’t spend much time in this space unless it is by intention. This is part of the reason why meditation can be so challenging for people. We spend most of our existence with the next task on our list, keeping our minds busy with activity and being so used to being busy that when we stop the cycle it feels uncomfortable.
When we take a moment, whether that is 1 minute, 5 minutes or longer to consciously spend time with no ‘next task’ on the list we create some space and perspective to reset into the Relaxation Response. The Relaxation Response is not about a sleepy space, an unproductive space, it is a highly effective zone where you can think clearly and creatively to make your best decisions. It’s the green zone. As opposed to the red zone, which is our Stress Response, this is where the thinking part of our brain shuts down under stress – not ideal for decision making. The red zone is triggered when we tell ourselves we are feeling stress or pressure, maybe from our own inner task master to-do list.
We can be harder on ourselves and have higher expectations of ourselves than we do of our work colleagues, friends or family. We can judge our actions and berate ourselves and then work even harder to do more to make up for it. This unproductive circle can keep cycling around and on the way induce more of the red zone, fuelling anxiety and stress.
Surrendering from the list may not feel comfortable for you at first. The more uncomfortable it is for you the more you could benefit from it. Especially given most of us have spent our whole life thinking of the next job on the list.
Here are some tips for helping you create some space and get you mind more in the green zone:-
-Write down your to-do list – take time at the start of each day to write down everything that is on your mind. Better out than in.
-Once you have written down your tasks, allocate a time next to each task so you can actually see how long you will need to complete each task.
-Then you need to prioritise the tasks and pick out the ones that you would like to complete today. Not some fantasy Cinderella style complete list, actual tasks that fit the time frame you have allocated to work. So many people have 10 hours of tasks that they assign to complete with only 8 hours they have allocated to work. Allocate less and allow space in your day for the unexpected.
-Take a period of time out to have a Me Moment. This can be 1 minute, 5 minutes or more when you have time NOT thinking about the next task on your list. This could be when you eat your breakfast, lunch or dinner to start with. Then you could start it when you are in transit, cars, trains, and planes. You can have a Me Moment as you apply your hand cream during the day or moisturise at night. If thoughts come in (which they will as you can’t stop your thoughts) just let them go as effortlessly as you can. Come back to the moment, your breath or your meal.
These Me Moments can be small gaps when you can be truly present and induce more calm, perspective, creativity and space to make the decisions you want to make. Think of your “non- planning” time as a reset for your body and mind. A chance to let go, surrender to thoughts and lists and in doing this you will naturally balance your body and mind and feel more energised throughout your day.
To gain insights into how to manage your time better you can contact our Founder and Executive Wellbeing Coach, Lyndall Mitchell at email@example.com